Fear Means You Care


A friend reached out to me recently and said, "It's finally time to pursue my dream project in 2018, but I can't shake how uncomfortable and scary and nerve-wracking it feels. Does that mean it's not my time?"

"No, love," I said. "It means you're right on time. Every project that's taken off, won an award, or satisfied the heart of the creator required that person to feel and move with exactly what you're feeling right now. So it's GOOD and NATURAL that you feel this way."

Because here's the thing: The bravest people I know aren't fearless. The bravest people I know feel their fear.

The fear that they might screw up.

The fear that they'll look bad or disappoint someone.

The fear that they're not ready yet.

The fear that it might not be enough.

They experience the deep-seeded, heart-pounding, nerve-wracking fear, and they move with it anyway.


I would be lying to you if I said that I have no fear about bringing my book into the world this year. Hell, I would be more concerned if I wasn't afraid. Of course I am afraid. And I love that feeling because what it tells me is how much I care, how important the book is to me, and how much I'm stretching myself and growing.  

As a rule of thumb, I tend to believe:

No fear = no growth.

No fear = not that important.

So when what you want feels uncomfortable as hell, and you're not sure if you're qualified, and you don't know exactly what you're doing, and you're afraid it might not go as you hope, here's what I want you to remember:

Courage requires discomfort.

Courage says, "This feels scary and I kind of don't want to go there, but I'm going there anyway."

Courage takes discomfort's hand and walks in the direction that's right and true.

This begs the question: how will you choose courage today? This week? This year?

Amber Rae