Rejection is Redirection
A new writer reached out to me recently and said, “I’ve been getting rejection after rejection lately, and I’m feeling depressed. What gives?!”
What gives is that rejection triggers the part of our brain responsible for physical pain. When we feel rejected, we literally FEEL rejected. And when we add a story to that feeling — about our worthiness, our talents, or our lovability — we only amplify and prolong the sensation.
And trust me, I know what that feels like. There have been plenty of times in my life when I made a “No” mean something was wrong with me or my work. When I allowed that Worry voice to be a guiding narrative, it only stifled my creativity and held back the gifts I’m here to give.
What’s encouraged me to keep going is remembering that REJECTION IS REDIRECTION.
Some people will immediately get who you are and what you have to offer. It’s an amazing feeling. Others will not—and that’s just as important too.
Why would we spend our time trying to convince someone of our gifts when there’s someone else who’s totally and completely ready to receive us?
When we see rejection as an indication of what’s not yet a fit, we can view it as a clue for what’s right around the corner.
So, to the writer who wrote me, and to anyone else who’s feeling achey around rejection—consider this your reminder to give your gifts, and give them fully.
Incredible things are ahead, but only if you get back in the arena and keep on.
I can’t wait to see what you create next.